behaviouristatplay:

Perhaps by now you have seen or read about this video featuring a father “teaching his daughter a lesson”. In this video, dad reads an incriminating letter written by his teen daughter that was posted on her Facebook wall. He then vents about his daughter on another social media platform in much the same way she vented about him. It is mentioned that dad does not care for his daughter’s language, including the use of swear words, but he then proceeds to call his daughter an “ass”.

Kettle meet pot.

But wait! Dad then proceeds to teach this lesson by shooting (yes, shooting) his daughter’s laptop with a handgun. Problem solved right? I mean, dad has successfully prevented his daughter from having access to that laptop. So that laptop won’t be used for her next rant. But do not be fooled into thinking she won’t display that behaviour again. When you consider thoughts as behaviours, we can all agree that she made her thoughts public using one method.  She was likely reinforced with attention from her peers (before dad got to her).  Destroying her laptop has removed one method of making thoughts public. It is highly probable however that she will come across similar avenues and an audience to publicize her thoughts, and she will likely vent again. Now that she’s been publicly humiliated by dear dad here, she’s got even more things to be upset about. The daughter’s disrespectful behaviour will likely not go away (which is the intent of punishment); instead, what has been created are the ideal antecedent conditions for more resentment, harsh words and avoidance-type behaviours.

Oh, and if you want to discuss modeling appropriate behaviour, I hope property destruction isn’t another behaviour dad will call her out for.  According to this dad and the wave of approval from others, it is perfectly reasonable and acceptable to go to a field and shoot a computer.

In the end, all this video does is focus on what the dad does not want his daughter to do without much mention of what he does expect (besides the chores). That original letter sounds much more like a cry for attention - to be acknowledged for what she was doing. And it doesn’t sound like she’ll be getting that acknowledgement anytime soon. Which is too bad really, because the only lesson this girl might be learning is what NOT to do…or how to hide it better the next time.        

Exactly! I wanted to put this on Facebook but didn’t want to give the dad any more attention than he’s already receiving! Horrible parenting!

Nine weeks old and learned stay and come. I’m using a clicker during stay with a variable interval of 10 secs and a treat when she came along with the clicker when giving the treat.

She did great with the three hour ride home!